Self-Love

Heart2Heart receive many questions on countless topics. The most common are to do with abundance, relationships, health and the inability to create in the physical the lifestyle they feel in their hearts.

The answer to all these questions is the same… Self-love.

Since we left ‘Home/All that is’ and journeyed through this experience called duality, we’ve looked outside of ourselves to find love, abundance, health, security and just about every other need we ever felt including, abuse, pain, detachment and depression. This outward seeking over the lifetimes has led us on amazing adventures through which we’ve gained extensive awareness of who we/God is/isn’t.

In this awesome time of new consciousness and new energy, we are finally beginning to feel and realise that we have within ourselves, all the answers and capabilities we were previously seeking from outside of self. Everything you need to create and live a grand, expansive, aware and balanced lifestyle is truly within you.

We’ve spent so much of our past looking outward and trusting others beliefs over our own, that it can seem alien to now allow yourself to look within and trust self. It takes time to release the old entrenched behaviours and gain self-trust, but the struggle is lessened as we realise and accept all the new energies are here in this lifetime to assist us in our magnificent transition into our divinehuman status.

I can honestly say from personal experience that when I came into self-love, the partner beyond my dreams came into my life through ways I never expected. When I came into self-love and accepted true abundance, I received my abundance on all levels. When I came into self-love and accepted my body could heal itself and allowed it, my body healed itself. When I came into self-love and let my divine nature dance with my human self, illusions became reality and reality became illusions. When I came into self-love I saw there was no right or wrong, just experience, my judgements fell away and joy danced in its place. When I came into self-love and accepted myself and all people and all things as they are in the now… I found freedom on all levels.

 

The question we usually hear when we share our awareness of self-love is, ‘But, how do I love myself?’

By doing exactly what we were taught by society and religion not to do… to love yourself more than anyone or anything! You must be the most important person in your ‘world’ to change your ‘world’.

Are you feeling any anxious feelings or deep irritations from that statement?... If you are, that’s your past life behaviour patterns of looking outside of yourself throwing a fearful tantrum… asking you not to do it differently, not to be selfish, not to trust this thing called self-love.

In truth, you can’t give anything to anyone else if you don’t first have it within yourself. Self-love is not selfish, it’s selfless. The wonderful side effect of self-love is that you automatically become a ‘Standard’ for humanity and spirit alike. The grand and creative potentials you generate from loving self are the same potentials you place in front of humanity for them to leap into if and when they choose. As more people fall into self-love and radiate out to the world, a domino effect is created allowing the awakening of humanity to occur at a rapid pace.

I could say, ‘Trust me it works!’… but I can only say that to myself… and because I do trust and love myself, I’ve seen situations and people around me go through grand changes in ways I never before thought possible.

I’m not going to sugar coat it, the truth is, moving into self-love is deeply challenging, confusing and heart aching as you begin to let go of who you thought you were. It’s particularly difficult to release the old patterns you have with children and those you love deeply. You feel as if you’re deserting them, as if it’s wrong to love self more than them. These are your great challenges, but in truth as you love self more, you’re allowing yourself to love them beyond the old karmic and ancestral patterns which release them also and gives them new clear potentials to embrace if they choose. Releasing my daughter was the hardest for me. It led to a lot of deep emotional unravelling. In my heart I knew no greater gift to give her than the freedom from old patterns and the awareness of self-love. At times it was difficult to stay in that self-love as I missed having her around… but in my core I knew that if I did, it would benefit her in the grandest ways. Now, with a warm heart, I can say we have a new acceptance in our relationship which continues to expand.

It takes courage to make the choice to be all that you are and step out of the old mass consciousness quagmire. There are many times you feel you want to give in and hide within an old behaviour, addiction or drama. There are times you feel you want to die, and in a sense you do, yet you stay in your body and breathe and transform and emerge like a butterfly with a new expanded awareness of self.

Then there are days you wake up and you can’t put your finger on it, but you know you’ve changed… you feel ‘lighter’, a little hollow, a little unsure. You realise deep within that you’ve stepped through something, released something and you know it’s wonderful even tho you may not be able to understand what it is in your mind. So much of the old illusion of who you thought you were fades and you start to hear a new voice in your heart… your voice. From that moment you realise joy and freedom are now foremost in your feelings rather than the old fears and challenges. From that moment, the challenges are less potent and you find you move past the old issues with very little game-playing or without engaging at all. You also become aware that yes, the universe is supporting you in your choice to be all that you are… and the journey into self continues with more ease and excitement than trepidation.

Self-love is self-acceptance in the now moment... from there, Anything IS Possible!

  

By Sue Norman